Polysecure by Jessica Fern Summary
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"Polysecure" revolutionizes attachment theory for non-monogamous relationships, offering the first framework for building security across multiple partnerships. Endorsed by Dr. Meg-John Barker and praised by therapists worldwide, it challenges the myth that polyamory inherently creates attachment issues. Can secure love exist beyond monogamy?
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When Your Heart Has Room for Many: Rethinking Attachment in Polyamory
Imagine discovering that everything you thought you knew about relationships was built on a false premise. Jessica Fern's groundbreaking work challenges the notion that secure attachment requires exclusivity, applying attachment theory to consensually nonmonogamous relationships. As polyamory gains mainstream recognition (with 20% of Americans having tried some form of consensual nonmonogamy), this book fills a crucial gap in relationship psychology. Rather than assuming monogamy as the only healthy option, Fern-a psychotherapist who practices nonmonogamy herself-offers a revolutionary framework for building secure bonds across multiple partnerships. The science is clear: our capacity for attachment isn't limited to just one person. Just as children can form secure attachments with multiple caregivers, adults can develop deep, secure connections with multiple partners-if they understand how attachment truly works.
The Foundations of Secure Attachment: Our First Emotional Blueprint
Beyond Monogamy: Creating Security Without Exclusivity
Why Monogamy Hides Attachment Wounds
The HEARTS Framework: Building Polysecure Bonds
Becoming Your Own Safe Haven: The Core of Polysecurity
Navigating the Practical Challenges of Multiple Attachments
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