Secure Love by Julie Menanno Summary
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Discover why Julie Menanno's national bestseller "Secure Love" has over a million followers rethinking relationships. Endorsed by Lori Gottlieb as "a must-read for every couple," this therapist's guide transforms attachment theory into practical tools. What childhood experience is sabotaging your love life?
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The Attachment Revolution: Finding Security in Love
Have you ever wondered why the same relationship patterns keep repeating in your life? Why that initial spark gradually transforms into cycles of misunderstanding and emotional distance? "Secure Love" offers a revolutionary framework for understanding these patterns through attachment theory. This isn't just academic theory - it's practical wisdom that has transformed countless relationships, from Hollywood marriages to everyday partnerships. Most relationship conflicts aren't about surface issues like finances or chores but stem from deeper attachment needs and fears that, once understood, can transform how we love. That argument about misplaced keys or unwashed dishes? It's rarely about the surface issue. When Jen snaps at Andrew about forgotten keys, what looks like a trivial complaint masks a fundamental human need: attachment security. Our brains are wired to seek secure attachment - the felt sense that we're loved, understood, and will be responded to when needed. When this security feels threatened, we instinctively react with protective behaviors that paradoxically push our partners away.
The Science of Attachment and Your Personal Style
Understanding and Breaking the Negative Cycle
Creating an Attachment-Friendly Environment
Effective Communication: Reaching and Responding
Healing Relationship Wounds: From Rupture to Repair
The Journey Forward: Finding Your Path to Secure Love
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"Feels effortless compared to reading. I’ve finished 6 books this month already."
"BeFreed turned my guilty doomscrolling into something that feels productive and inspiring."
"BeFreed turned my commute into learning time. 20-min podcasts are perfect for finishing books I never had time for."
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