What Makes Love Last? by John M. Gottman Summary
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Dr. Gottman's relationship masterpiece reveals how to build unshakable trust with 90% predictive accuracy. Endorsed by wellness expert Elise Loehnen as "transformative," this science-backed guide answers the question: why do some relationships thrive while others crumble despite genuine love?
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The Trust Equation: Why Some Relationships Thrive While Others Crumble
What if the secret to lasting love isn't about communication techniques or compatibility, but something far more fundamental? After four decades studying thousands of couples in my "Love Lab" at the University of Washington, I've discovered that trust-not communication skills-forms the bedrock of successful relationships. Using sensors measuring everything from heart rates to subtle facial expressions, I've developed a mathematical "trust metric" that can predict with 85% accuracy which relationships will flourish and which will fail. The revolutionary insight? Betrayal acts as a silent poison in failing relationships, often unrecognized by both partners. The good news is that even severely damaged relationships can be revitalized by rebuilding trust. This isn't theoretical-it's backed by rigorous research and mathematical calculations derived from observing real couples navigating the complexities of love.
The Science of Connection: How Trust Functions in Relationships
The Emotional Zones: Where Does Your Relationship Live?
The Betrayal Cascade: How Trust Erodes One Step at a Time
Beyond Affairs: The Hidden Betrayals That Destroy Relationships
The Heart of Connection: Emotional Attunement
Healing After Betrayal: The Path Forward
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"Feels effortless compared to reading. I’ve finished 6 books this month already."
"BeFreed turned my guilty doomscrolling into something that feels productive and inspiring."
"BeFreed turned my commute into learning time. 20-min podcasts are perfect for finishing books I never had time for."
"BeFreed replaced my podcast queue. Imagine Spotify for books — that’s it. 🙌"
"It is great for me to learn something from the book without reading it."
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"Instead of endless scrolling, I just hit play on BeFreed. It saves me so much time."
"I never knew where to start with nonfiction—BeFreed’s book lists turned into podcasts gave me a clear path."
"Perfect balance between learning and entertainment. Finished ‘Thinking, Fast and Slow’ on my commute this week."
"Crazy how much I learned while walking the dog. BeFreed = small habits → big gains."
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"Makes me feel smarter every time before going to work"
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