True to You by Kathleen Smith Summary
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In "True to You," therapist Kathleen Smith reveals why people-pleasing sabotages your authentic self. Featured on The Second City podcast, this guide unpacks Bowen theory's revolutionary approach to relationships. What if the key to genuine connections isn't accommodation, but defining your own principles?
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When You're Everyone's Version of You-Except Your Own
Ever notice how you become a slightly different person depending on who's in the room? With your parents, you're the responsible one. With your partner, maybe you're the anxious one. At work, you're the capable problem-solver. But who are you when no one's watching? This question sits at the heart of one of our most universal struggles: we're so busy managing everyone else's reactions that we've lost track of ourselves. We've become emotional chameleons, shifting and adapting to keep the peace, earn approval, or avoid conflict. The exhaustion is real, and it's not a personal failing-it's a predictable pattern that plays out in families and relationships everywhere. Understanding these patterns offers something rare: a way to stop performing and start living authentically, even in our closest relationships.
The Invisible Tug-of-War Inside Every Relationship
The Exhausting Performance of Keeping Everyone Comfortable
The Borrowed Beliefs That Run Your Life
When Your Help Becomes Their Crutch
The Comfort of Borrowed Confidence
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"Feels effortless compared to reading. I’ve finished 6 books this month already."
"BeFreed turned my guilty doomscrolling into something that feels productive and inspiring."
"BeFreed turned my commute into learning time. 20-min podcasts are perfect for finishing books I never had time for."
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