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The High-Conflict Couple
Alan E. Fruzzetti
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Transform your relationship from battleground to sanctuary with "The High-Conflict Couple." Endorsed by DBT pioneer Marsha Linehan, this therapeutic gem teaches emotional regulation that revolutionizes intimacy. What if the same skills helping thousands of couples could prevent your next explosive argument?

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When Love Turns Toxic: Navigating the Emotional Battlefield

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Ever wondered why the person who once made your heart flutter now makes your blood boil? How a simple conversation about dinner plans can escalate into a screaming match about your entire relationship? You're not alone. What makes Fruzzetti's approach so powerful is that it's grounded in dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) - a revolutionary psychological framework that has proven remarkably effective for relationship conflicts. Unlike generic relationship advice, these techniques offer concrete strategies for couples trapped in destructive patterns, helping them transform conflict into connection.

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The Emotional Rollercoaster: Understanding Why We Hurt Those We Love

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Mindfulness: The Foundation for Relationship Transformation

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Breaking Destructive Patterns: The Power of Self-Control

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Reconnecting Through Mindful Presence

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The Art of Accurate Expression: Communicating What Matters

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The Power of Validation: Understanding Your Partner's Experience

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