Fight Right by Julie Schwartz Gottman Summary
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Discover why conflict isn't the enemy in relationships. The Gottmans' "Fight Right" redefines arguments as pathways to deeper connection, praised by Lori Gottlieb and Jay Shetty. What if fighting better could actually save your relationship?
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When Arguments Become Bridges: The Hidden Power of Conflict
Have you ever noticed how some couples emerge from arguments closer than before, while others spiral into resentment? After studying over 3,000 couples for more than five decades, Julie and John Gottman discovered something surprising: it's not the absence of conflict that makes relationships thrive, but how couples navigate it. Their groundbreaking research shows that the first three minutes of an argument can predict a couple's relationship status six years later with over 90% accuracy. The myth that happy couples don't fight is just that - a myth. In fact, couples who pride themselves on never fighting often grow emotionally distant. The real problem isn't conflict itself but that most of us were never taught how to fight constructively. Like the lawyer couple who ultimately divorced over a puppy (and the mummified dog poop neither would clean up), small disagreements can calcify into relationship-destroying conflicts when we don't address what's truly happening beneath the surface.
The Science of Fighting Right: What Research Reveals
What We're Really Fighting About: Beyond Surface Conflicts
The Critical First Minutes and Managing Emotional Flooding
Uncovering Dreams Within Conflicts
Beyond Win-Lose: Finding the Third Path
From Conflict to Connection: The Art of Repair
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"BeFreed turned my guilty doomscrolling into something that feels productive and inspiring."
"BeFreed turned my commute into learning time. 20-min podcasts are perfect for finishing books I never had time for."
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