Intimacy and Desire by David Schnarch Summary
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Dr. Schnarch's revolutionary guide reveals why sexual desire problems are normal in committed relationships. Through real case studies, he challenges conventional wisdom about intimacy - showing how the tension between "High" and "Low" desire partners can spark growth, not signal failure. Ready to transform marital conflict into passion?
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The Paradox of Love and Desire
When was the last time you felt truly desired by your partner? Or perhaps you're the one struggling to feel desire despite loving them deeply? This paradox haunts countless relationships, yet clinical psychologist David Schnarch discovered something revolutionary: sexual desire problems aren't signs of dysfunction but normal developmental challenges that can catalyze profound personal growth. His groundbreaking "Crucible Approach" reframes the conversation entirely. Rather than viewing fading passion as a relationship death sentence, what if it's actually an invitation to deeper connection and personal evolution? The truth about desire lies not in new positions or date nights, but in understanding the intricate dance between your sense of self and your capacity for intimacy.
The Universal Low-Desire Partner Dynamic
How Your Sense of Self Shapes Desire
The Hidden Control Patterns in Relationships
The Four Points of Balance: Your Path to Desire
The Two Faces of Intimacy
From Sexual Boredom to Passionate Connection
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