He Comes Next by Ian Kerner Summary
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Discover why Ian Kerner's "He Comes Next" revolutionized intimate relationships by exploring male psychology beyond Viagra. This bestselling follow-up to "She Comes First" reveals how brain chemistry drives desire, offering women the secret language of male pleasure that relationship experts can't stop recommending.
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The Shaky Bridge Effect: Unlocking Male Desire
Imagine crossing a swaying bridge 250 feet above turbulent waters. Your heart races, adrenaline surges-and surprisingly, your attraction intensifies. This phenomenon, discovered in the famous "Shaky Bridge Study," reveals how excitement transforms into desire through what scientists call "misattribution." Most couples, however, stick to the safe, predictable path rather than venturing onto that metaphorical shaky bridge of passion. This disconnect explains why so many relationships experience diminishing sexual satisfaction over time. Male sexuality isn't the simple, straightforward drive it's often portrayed to be. It's a complex landscape of physical sensations, psychological needs, and emotional vulnerabilities-all wrapped in layers of protection developed since childhood. Understanding this intricate terrain is essential for creating genuinely fulfilling intimate connections. The journey to passionate, connected sex begins with recognizing that men's sexuality extends far beyond the penis, involving the entire body and mind in ways many have never fully explored. When we approach male pleasure with curiosity and openness, we discover an unexplored territory of sensation. The scrotum responds to gentle handling rather than direct stimulation. The perineum contains rich nerve endings and erectile tissue. Even the prostate-the male G-spot-can be stimulated externally. Yet these areas remain "more heavily guarded than Guantanamo Bay" for many men, creating a barrier to experiencing full-body pleasure that transcends conventional experiences.
The Protected Male: Childhood Roots of Adult Sexuality
The Neural Itch: Why Desire Fades and How to Revive It
The Fantasy Factor: Male Desire's Secret Engine
The Body-Mind Connection: Physical Foundations of Desire
Beyond Technique: The Emotional Heart of Male Sexuality
The Expanding Universe: Growing Together Sexually
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"Instead of endless scrolling, I just hit play on BeFreed. It saves me so much time."
"I never knew where to start with nonfiction—BeFreed’s book lists turned into podcasts gave me a clear path."
"Perfect balance between learning and entertainment. Finished ‘Thinking, Fast and Slow’ on my commute this week."
"Crazy how much I learned while walking the dog. BeFreed = small habits → big gains."
"Reading used to feel like a chore. Now it’s just part of my lifestyle."
"Feels effortless compared to reading. I’ve finished 6 books this month already."
"BeFreed turned my guilty doomscrolling into something that feels productive and inspiring."
"BeFreed turned my commute into learning time. 20-min podcasts are perfect for finishing books I never had time for."
"BeFreed replaced my podcast queue. Imagine Spotify for books — that’s it. 🙌"
"It is great for me to learn something from the book without reading it."
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"Makes me feel smarter every time before going to work"
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"I never knew where to start with nonfiction—BeFreed’s book lists turned into podcasts gave me a clear path."
"Perfect balance between learning and entertainment. Finished ‘Thinking, Fast and Slow’ on my commute this week."
"Crazy how much I learned while walking the dog. BeFreed = small habits → big gains."
"Reading used to feel like a chore. Now it’s just part of my lifestyle."
"Feels effortless compared to reading. I’ve finished 6 books this month already."
"BeFreed turned my guilty doomscrolling into something that feels productive and inspiring."
"BeFreed turned my commute into learning time. 20-min podcasts are perfect for finishing books I never had time for."
"BeFreed replaced my podcast queue. Imagine Spotify for books — that’s it. 🙌"
"It is great for me to learn something from the book without reading it."
"The themed book list podcasts help me connect ideas across authors—like a guided audio journey."
"Makes me feel smarter every time before going to work"
"Instead of endless scrolling, I just hit play on BeFreed. It saves me so much time."
"I never knew where to start with nonfiction—BeFreed’s book lists turned into podcasts gave me a clear path."
"Perfect balance between learning and entertainment. Finished ‘Thinking, Fast and Slow’ on my commute this week."
"Crazy how much I learned while walking the dog. BeFreed = small habits → big gains."
"Reading used to feel like a chore. Now it’s just part of my lifestyle."
"Feels effortless compared to reading. I’ve finished 6 books this month already."
"BeFreed turned my guilty doomscrolling into something that feels productive and inspiring."
"BeFreed turned my commute into learning time. 20-min podcasts are perfect for finishing books I never had time for."
"BeFreed replaced my podcast queue. Imagine Spotify for books — that’s it. 🙌"
"It is great for me to learn something from the book without reading it."
"The themed book list podcasts help me connect ideas across authors—like a guided audio journey."
"Makes me feel smarter every time before going to work"
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