The Narcissist You Know by Joseph Burgo Summary
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Unmask the "extreme narcissists" hiding in plain sight. Joseph Burgo's eye-opening guide analyzes Madonna, Trump, and Armstrong as case studies of toxic behavior patterns affecting 5% of people. Business Insider's featured pick for spotting the manipulators secretly controlling your life.
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The Hidden Wounds Behind Extreme Narcissism
Ever met someone who leaves emotional devastation in their wake? That person might be what psychotherapist Joseph Burgo calls an "Extreme Narcissist" - not just someone who takes too many selfies, but an individual with a defensive personality structure affecting about 5% of the population. What makes these individuals particularly dangerous is that their behavior stems not from excessive self-love, but from profound shame they're desperate to escape. This shame creates a psychological fortress where they must always be the winner, making everyone else the loser. Understanding this winner-loser dynamic is crucial for protecting yourself from their destructive patterns. Whether they appear as moral crusaders, bullies, know-it-alls, or seducers, Extreme Narcissists share one thing: a desperate need to avoid feeling defective by making others feel inferior instead.
The Self-Righteous and Addicted Narcissist: Escaping Shame Through Superiority or Substances
The Vindictive and Bullying Narcissist: Life as an Endless Revenge Mission
The Seductive Narcissist: Irresistible Charm with Hidden Agendas
The Narcissistic Parent: When Children Become Extensions
Prevention Strategies: Protecting Yourself from Narcissistic Harm
Breaking Free: Compassion Without Becoming a Casualty
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"BeFreed turned my guilty doomscrolling into something that feels productive and inspiring."
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"It is great for me to learn something from the book without reading it."
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