Taking Sexy Back by Alexandra H. Solomon Summary
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In "Taking Sexy Back," Dr. Alexandra Solomon challenges the "sexy but not sexual" paradox women face. This groundbreaking guide, praised for its timely #MeToo-era relevance, helps women reclaim authentic desire beyond societal expectations. One mother-daughter duo even read it together - sparking intergenerational healing about intimacy.
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When Your Sexuality Isn't Yours
Picture scrolling through social media, bombarded by images of what "sexy" should look like-airbrushed bodies, performative intimacy, contradictory messages about being desirable yet modest, available yet not too eager. Now ask yourself: when was the last time you felt truly connected to your own sexual pleasure, rather than worrying about how you appear to someone else? This disconnect isn't personal failure-it's the inevitable result of living in a culture that teaches women their sexuality exists for others' consumption rather than their own joy. There's a revolutionary difference between being sexualized and being sexual. When you're sexualized, your body becomes a performance evaluated by an invisible audience. You're simultaneously told to be alluring but not demanding, to please your partner while your own pleasure remains optional, even fake-able. This outside-in approach positions women as passive recipients rather than active participants in their own erotic lives. The antidote? Flipping the script entirely-from outside-in to inside-out sexuality, where your pleasure, curiosity, and authentic desire become the starting point rather than the afterthought.
Mapping Your Sexual Territory
The Education We Never Received
Understanding Your Unique Desire
Reclaiming Your Body as Pleasure's Home
Creating Connection That Honors Both Partners
Your Pleasure Is Your Birthright
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"Perfect balance between learning and entertainment. Finished ‘Thinking, Fast and Slow’ on my commute this week."
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"Reading used to feel like a chore. Now it’s just part of my lifestyle."
"Feels effortless compared to reading. I’ve finished 6 books this month already."
"BeFreed turned my guilty doomscrolling into something that feels productive and inspiring."
"BeFreed turned my commute into learning time. 20-min podcasts are perfect for finishing books I never had time for."
"BeFreed replaced my podcast queue. Imagine Spotify for books — that’s it. 🙌"
"It is great for me to learn something from the book without reading it."
"The themed book list podcasts help me connect ideas across authors—like a guided audio journey."
"Makes me feel smarter every time before going to work"
"Instead of endless scrolling, I just hit play on BeFreed. It saves me so much time."
"I never knew where to start with nonfiction—BeFreed’s book lists turned into podcasts gave me a clear path."
"Perfect balance between learning and entertainment. Finished ‘Thinking, Fast and Slow’ on my commute this week."
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"Makes me feel smarter every time before going to work"
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