Loveology by John Mark Comer Summary
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In "Loveology," bestselling author John Mark Comer boldly confronts modern relationship chaos with biblical wisdom. What if ancient scripture holds the key to love's deepest mysteries? This controversial guide sparked heated debates on gender roles while becoming required reading in Christian premarital counseling nationwide.
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When Forever Feels Impossible
At sixty years of marriage, most couples are celebrating with cruises and photo albums. John Mark Comer's grandparents marked theirs in a hospital room. His grandmother was recovering from a brain tumor, and his grandfather sat beside her, embodying a love that refused to quit. This wasn't the fairy tale we see in movies - it was something rawer, more powerful. It was love "as strong as death," the kind that doesn't collapse when the music stops or the lights dim. We've grown up on Disney endings and rom-com formulas, but real love looks more like those weathered hands holding tight through the storm. What if our confusion about relationships isn't because love is complicated, but because we've forgotten what it actually means? We use the word "love" for everything. I love my wife. I love tacos. I love that new series on Netflix. The word has become a junk drawer where we toss every feeling from mild preference to life-altering devotion. This linguistic laziness creates real problems when we try to build lasting relationships on such shaky definitions. Many of us define love as tolerance or intense emotion - something that happens to us rather than something we choose. We "fall" into love like we're tripping over a crack in the sidewalk, which means we can just as easily fall back out. But if marriage is meant to last a lifetime, we need a sturdier foundation than fluctuating feelings. True love looks like Jesus washing feet - both feeling deeply and acting sacrificially. It's making coffee before your partner wakes, listening after exhausting days, showing up when it's inconvenient. Hebrew captures this beautifully with different words: *rayah* for friendship love found in shared laughter, *dod* for passionate physical desire, and *ahava* - the deepest soul-level love that burns like fire and refuses to quit. Walking Jerusalem's Via Dolorosa, tracing Jesus's final steps to crucifixion, the weight of cross-shaped love becomes tangible. Each ancient stone testifies that love costs something. This is the only kind strong enough to carry a relationship through decades of sleepless nights with sick children, financial anxiety, career upheavals, and aging parents. My wife and I discover this daily - that love's difficulty and beauty are inseparable, like resurrection following death.
What Marriage Is Actually For and Its Sacred Design
Pursuing Holiness Over Boundaries
The Journey to the Day
The Art of Active Waiting
Beyond the Fairy Tale
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"Perfect balance between learning and entertainment. Finished ‘Thinking, Fast and Slow’ on my commute this week."
"Crazy how much I learned while walking the dog. BeFreed = small habits → big gains."
"Reading used to feel like a chore. Now it’s just part of my lifestyle."
"Feels effortless compared to reading. I’ve finished 6 books this month already."
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"Perfect balance between learning and entertainment. Finished ‘Thinking, Fast and Slow’ on my commute this week."
"Crazy how much I learned while walking the dog. BeFreed = small habits → big gains."
"Reading used to feel like a chore. Now it’s just part of my lifestyle."
"Feels effortless compared to reading. I’ve finished 6 books this month already."
"BeFreed turned my guilty doomscrolling into something that feels productive and inspiring."
"BeFreed turned my commute into learning time. 20-min podcasts are perfect for finishing books I never had time for."
"BeFreed replaced my podcast queue. Imagine Spotify for books — that’s it. 🙌"
"It is great for me to learn something from the book without reading it."
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"Feels effortless compared to reading. I’ve finished 6 books this month already."
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"It is great for me to learn something from the book without reading it."
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