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In "How to Stop Breaking Your Own Heart," #1 New York Times bestseller Meggan Roxanne reveals why self-sabotage feels so familiar. Drawing from her West Indian roots, she offers the boundary-setting wisdom that transformed thousands - including readers who call it "the journey home to yourself."
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Breaking the Cycle of Self-Inflicted Heartbreak
When we think about heartbreak, we often picture someone else causing our pain. But what if the person repeatedly breaking your heart is you? This profound question sits at the core of Meggan Roxanne's transformative work. Through her own journey from childhood rejection to adult self-discovery, she reveals how our deepest wounds often come from patterns we ourselves create-and therefore have the power to change. The most damaging relationship patterns begin early, sometimes in childhood, becoming so ingrained that we mistake them for personality rather than learned behavior. For Meggan, this pattern started at age four when her grandfather coldly told her he didn't love her, teaching her that love isn't guaranteed, even from family. Like her resilient single mother Janette, she became a people-pleaser, fearing that setting boundaries would make people leave. "I would go the extra mile without reciprocation," she writes, "creating unsustainable expectations. By not setting proper boundaries, I passively gave people permission to undervalue me."
The Perfection Illusion That Keeps Us Small
Living Someone Else's Dream: The Quiet Heartbreak
The Comfort Zone That Slowly Suffocates Us
The Journey Back to Self: Healing Begins with Awareness
Finding Strength in Solitude and Vulnerability
Standing in Your Truth: The Ultimate Protection
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"BeFreed turned my guilty doomscrolling into something that feels productive and inspiring."
"BeFreed turned my commute into learning time. 20-min podcasts are perfect for finishing books I never had time for."
"BeFreed replaced my podcast queue. Imagine Spotify for books — that’s it. 🙌"
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