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How to Keep People from Pushing Your Buttons
Albert Ellis
3.6 (546 Reviews)
Psychology
Self-growth
Relationship
Mindfulness
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Master your emotions and stop others from controlling them. Dr. Albert Ellis's groundbreaking guide offers practical cognitive-behavioral techniques that transform relationships and reduce stress. This influential work in REBT psychology has shaped therapeutic approaches worldwide. Ever wonder why Tony Robbins references these principles? Your emotional freedom awaits.

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Mastering Your Emotional Buttons: The Power of Rational Thinking

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Ever found yourself seething with rage at a rude waiter, feeling crushed by criticism, or exploding at your teenager over a messy room? According to psychologist Albert Ellis, these emotional overreactions are entirely preventable - once you understand what's really happening. His revolutionary approach challenges the idea that external events cause our feelings. Instead, he reveals something far more empowering: we create our own emotional distress through irrational thinking patterns. The good news? Once we recognize these patterns, we can change them, transforming how we respond to life's inevitable frustrations. This insight has influenced everyone from Tony Robbins to military resilience training programs, helping millions regain control of their emotional lives. As Will Smith once noted, "Understanding that I control my emotional reactions was the single most important realization of my career."

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Understanding Emotional Triggers: The Fatal Foursome and ABC Model

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Catastrophic Thinking: When "What If" Becomes "It's Awful!"

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Absolutist Thinking: The Tyranny of "Should"

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Four Steps to Emotional Freedom

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Relationship and Parenting Button-Pushers

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Taking Back Your Emotional Power

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