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First Comes Love by Marion Winik Summary

First Comes Love
Marion Winik
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When Love Refused to Follow the Rules

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That morning in March 1986, I stood in an ivory lace dress, beaming at a man in a black zoot suit who had just taken my last name. Our families clinked glasses, the deejay announced "Mr. and Mrs. Winik," and nobody mentioned the elephant in the room: I had just married a gay man. Not bisexual. Not questioning. Gay. And somehow, against every rational argument my friends could muster, it felt like the rightest thing I'd ever done. This is the story Marion Winik tells in "First Comes Love"-a memoir that landed on Oprah's reading list and reportedly sat on Madonna's nightstand. It's about falling for someone you absolutely shouldn't, building a life that defies logic, and discovering that love's most profound truth is its refusal to be categorized. When the book appeared in 1996, it shattered assumptions about what relationships could look like, especially during the AIDS crisis when fear was rewriting the rules of intimacy. What makes this story unforgettable isn't just its unconventional premise, but its raw honesty about what happens when passion collides with reality-and how two people can be both perfectly wrong and perfectly right for each other.

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The Magnetic Pull of the Impossible

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Building a Life on Shaky Ground

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When Dreams Collide with Biology

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The Long Goodbye

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The Afterlife of Love

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