When Men Behave Badly by David M. Buss Summary
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Evolutionary psychologist David Buss exposes the dark roots of sexual misconduct through science. Endorsed by Steven Pinker and Jonathan Haidt as "the long lost operating manual" for human mating, this unflinching guide reveals why "attractive" Dark Triad traits often mask dangerous predators.
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Why Men and Women Keep Misreading Each Other
Picture a woman smiling politely at a colleague's joke during a work meeting. He interprets this as romantic interest and asks her out, leaving her confused and uncomfortable. She was just being professional; he thought she was flirting. This everyday scenario reveals something profound: men and women are playing the same game with different rulebooks, and neither fully understands what the other is reading. The roots of this confusion stretch back far deeper than modern dating culture or workplace dynamics. Sexual conflict emerged 1.3 billion years ago with sexual reproduction itself, creating an endless evolutionary chess match between males and females across species. Consider the spider that wraps worthless items in silk to trick females into mating-and the females who evolved better fraud detection in response. This back-and-forth pattern, what scientists call a coevolutionary arms race, drives much of the tension between human men and women today. The core issue is biological asymmetry. Women invest nine months of pregnancy, years of nursing, and immense physical resources into each child. Men contribute DNA and, ideally, protection and resources-but biologically, they could reproduce with minimal investment. This creates fundamentally different optimal strategies: women generally prefer longer courtship to assess a partner's full value, while men often prefer faster sexual access. Neither strategy is wrong, but they pull in opposite directions, creating friction at every turn. Both sexes pay heavy costs in this conflict, not through clear victories but through constant defensive vigilance and missed opportunities.
The Mating Market's Hall of Mirrors
When Commitment Becomes a Battlefield
The Dark Side of Love: Violence and Control
After the Breakup: Stalking and Revenge
The Spectrum of Sexual Coercion and Women's Defenses
Building Bridges Toward Real Understanding
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