Untangled by Lisa Damour Summary
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Untangled demystifies teenage girls' development through seven critical transitions. Lisa Damour's compassionate guide, praised by parenting experts as "brilliant," transforms how we understand adolescence. Why do parents call this their secret weapon for navigating emotional storms while respecting their daughters' growing independence?
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When Your Sweet Daughter Becomes a Stranger
One morning, your affectionate daughter who loved cuddles suddenly recoils from your hug like you've committed a crime. The girl who once shared everything now guards her phone like state secrets. You wonder: What happened to my child? Here's the truth that changes everything-nothing is wrong. This transformation isn't rebellion or rejection. It's the beginning of one of life's most misunderstood journeys: female adolescence. Rather than viewing these years as chaos to survive, what if we understood them as a predictable path with recognizable milestones? What if the mood swings, social drama, and door-slamming actually signal healthy progress? Understanding the seven developmental strands of adolescence transforms our entire relationship with teenage girls-from confusion and conflict to clarity and connection. When girls treat us poorly or make poor choices, we often take it personally, forgetting that adolescence isn't punishment girls inflict on parents but a developmental phase they're struggling through.
The Swimmer and the Wall: Navigating Independence and Connection
The Popularity Trap and the Emotional Dumping Ground
Understanding Her Emotional World and Your Authority
Building Her Future: Academics, Technology, and Growth Mindset
The Compass Within: Romance, Sexuality, and Self-Trust
Untangling Yourself: The Real Work of Parenting Teens
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From Columbia University alumni built in San Francisco
"Instead of endless scrolling, I just hit play on BeFreed. It saves me so much time."
"I never knew where to start with nonfiction—BeFreed’s book lists turned into podcasts gave me a clear path."
"Perfect balance between learning and entertainment. Finished ‘Thinking, Fast and Slow’ on my commute this week."
"Crazy how much I learned while walking the dog. BeFreed = small habits → big gains."
"Reading used to feel like a chore. Now it’s just part of my lifestyle."
"Feels effortless compared to reading. I’ve finished 6 books this month already."
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"I never knew where to start with nonfiction—BeFreed’s book lists turned into podcasts gave me a clear path."
"Perfect balance between learning and entertainment. Finished ‘Thinking, Fast and Slow’ on my commute this week."
"Crazy how much I learned while walking the dog. BeFreed = small habits → big gains."
"Reading used to feel like a chore. Now it’s just part of my lifestyle."
"Feels effortless compared to reading. I’ve finished 6 books this month already."
"BeFreed turned my guilty doomscrolling into something that feels productive and inspiring."
"BeFreed turned my commute into learning time. 20-min podcasts are perfect for finishing books I never had time for."
"BeFreed replaced my podcast queue. Imagine Spotify for books — that’s it. 🙌"
"It is great for me to learn something from the book without reading it."
"The themed book list podcasts help me connect ideas across authors—like a guided audio journey."
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"Instead of endless scrolling, I just hit play on BeFreed. It saves me so much time."
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"Perfect balance between learning and entertainment. Finished ‘Thinking, Fast and Slow’ on my commute this week."
"Crazy how much I learned while walking the dog. BeFreed = small habits → big gains."
"Reading used to feel like a chore. Now it’s just part of my lifestyle."
"Feels effortless compared to reading. I’ve finished 6 books this month already."
"BeFreed turned my guilty doomscrolling into something that feels productive and inspiring."
"BeFreed turned my commute into learning time. 20-min podcasts are perfect for finishing books I never had time for."
"BeFreed replaced my podcast queue. Imagine Spotify for books — that’s it. 🙌"
"It is great for me to learn something from the book without reading it."
"The themed book list podcasts help me connect ideas across authors—like a guided audio journey."
"Makes me feel smarter every time before going to work"
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