Touched Out by Amanda Montei Summary
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"Touched Out" exposes the hidden toll of motherhood, where bodily autonomy meets societal expectation. Praised by Eve Rodsky as "leading a new wave of feminism," this revolutionary work gives voice to what countless mothers feel but couldn't articulate. What if motherhood's exhaustion isn't personal failure?
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The Weight of a Million Tiny Hands
Have you ever felt your body recoil from the people you love most? There's a moment many mothers know but rarely name-when your toddler reaches for you and everything inside screams *not again*. Your skin crawls. Your jaw clenches. You'd give anything for ten minutes where no one needs your body for anything at all. This isn't postpartum depression, though it often gets confused with it. This is being "touched out"-a visceral, overwhelming sensation when your body has been so thoroughly claimed by others that you've become a stranger to yourself. It's the physical manifestation of what happens when motherhood demands the complete surrender of bodily autonomy, transforming women into 24/7 feeding stations, comfort objects, and jungle gyms. The phrase "touched out" captures something profound about modern American motherhood that goes far beyond simple fatigue. From nursing infants who treat breasts as all-access buffets to toddlers who climb mothers like playground equipment, women's bodies become public infrastructure-accessible, expected to function flawlessly, and rarely given maintenance. During the 2020 pandemic lockdowns, this reality intensified to a breaking point. Mothers found themselves trapped in endless cycles of diaper changes, meal preparation, emotional regulation, and physical comfort with no backup systems, no breaks, no escape routes. The isolation revealed what had always been true: American mothers parent in a vacuum that would be considered neglectful in most human societies throughout history. What makes this experience so isolating is how it's simultaneously normalized and silenced: mothers whisper about it in bathroom stalls and private Facebook groups, but rarely in daylight where it might challenge our romanticized notions of maternal devotion.
When Bodies Become Battlegrounds and Miracles
The Pleasure That Demands Everything
The Economics of Invisible Labor and Perfect Performance
Learning to Say No in a Culture That Demands Yes
Refusal as Revolution and Teaching What We Never Learned
Building Something New
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"Instead of endless scrolling, I just hit play on BeFreed. It saves me so much time."
"I never knew where to start with nonfiction—BeFreed’s book lists turned into podcasts gave me a clear path."
"Perfect balance between learning and entertainment. Finished ‘Thinking, Fast and Slow’ on my commute this week."
"Crazy how much I learned while walking the dog. BeFreed = small habits → big gains."
"Reading used to feel like a chore. Now it’s just part of my lifestyle."
"Feels effortless compared to reading. I’ve finished 6 books this month already."
"BeFreed turned my guilty doomscrolling into something that feels productive and inspiring."
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"BeFreed replaced my podcast queue. Imagine Spotify for books — that’s it. 🙌"
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"I never knew where to start with nonfiction—BeFreed’s book lists turned into podcasts gave me a clear path."
"Perfect balance between learning and entertainment. Finished ‘Thinking, Fast and Slow’ on my commute this week."
"Crazy how much I learned while walking the dog. BeFreed = small habits → big gains."
"Reading used to feel like a chore. Now it’s just part of my lifestyle."
"Feels effortless compared to reading. I’ve finished 6 books this month already."
"BeFreed turned my guilty doomscrolling into something that feels productive and inspiring."
"BeFreed turned my commute into learning time. 20-min podcasts are perfect for finishing books I never had time for."
"BeFreed replaced my podcast queue. Imagine Spotify for books — that’s it. 🙌"
"It is great for me to learn something from the book without reading it."
"The themed book list podcasts help me connect ideas across authors—like a guided audio journey."
"Makes me feel smarter every time before going to work"
"Instead of endless scrolling, I just hit play on BeFreed. It saves me so much time."
"I never knew where to start with nonfiction—BeFreed’s book lists turned into podcasts gave me a clear path."
"Perfect balance between learning and entertainment. Finished ‘Thinking, Fast and Slow’ on my commute this week."
"Crazy how much I learned while walking the dog. BeFreed = small habits → big gains."
"Reading used to feel like a chore. Now it’s just part of my lifestyle."
"Feels effortless compared to reading. I’ve finished 6 books this month already."
"BeFreed turned my guilty doomscrolling into something that feels productive and inspiring."
"BeFreed turned my commute into learning time. 20-min podcasts are perfect for finishing books I never had time for."
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"Makes me feel smarter every time before going to work"
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