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The Parenting Map
Shefali Tsabary
4.27 (933 Reviews)
Psychology
Self-growth
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Dr. Shefali Tsabary's bestseller offers revolutionary solutions for conscious parenting in our digital age. What childhood baggage is sabotaging your parenting? This practical guide, blending Eastern wisdom with Western psychology, transforms parent-child relationships through step-by-step practices that Oprah calls "life-changing."

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When Perfect Parents Create Broken Children

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What if everything we've been taught about parenting is fundamentally backward? When Oprah Winfrey declared Dr. Shefali Tsabary's work "revolutionary," she wasn't exaggerating. As youth mental health crises reach unprecedented levels and anxiety disorders skyrocket among children, we're witnessing the catastrophic failure of traditional parenting approaches. The problem isn't that parents don't love their children enough-it's that we've been fighting the wrong battle entirely. Most parenting advice focuses on controlling children's behavior, managing tantrums, enforcing rules. But what if the real work isn't about fixing our kids at all? What if the transformation must begin with us, the parents, confronting our own unhealed wounds and unconscious patterns? Parenting creates an emotional investment unlike any other relationship. We experience euphoric highs watching first steps and devastating lows during health scares, all while maintaining total commitment we can't simply abandon. Yet here's the cruel irony: we're expected to guide these small humans through their formative years while we ourselves remain emotionally immature and still evolving. A sleep-deprived parent battling postpartum anxiety can't always respond perfectly to a colicky baby. A stressed professional might overreact to homework resistance. We're asked to be experts without training, therapists without degrees, and saints without flaws. This isn't just another parenting strategy-it's a complete paradigm shift that challenges everything we think we know about raising children.

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The Impossible Burden and the Mirror Your Child Holds

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The Fantasy Child You Must Grieve

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The Masks We Hide Behind

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Breaking the Cycle of Dysfunction

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From Control to Conscious Connection

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The Path Forward Begins Within

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