The Like Switch by Jack Schafer and Marvin Karlins Summary
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Former FBI agent Jack Schafer reveals secret techniques for winning anyone over using his "Friendship Formula." Learn the nonverbal cues that build instant trust - the same strategies that helped him recruit spies and profile terrorists. Your relationships will never be the same.
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When a Stranger Becomes a Friend: What an FBI Spy Recruiter Knows About Connection
What if I told you the same psychological tactics used to turn foreign diplomats into American spies could help you make friends at your new job, find a romantic partner, or simply feel less alone in a crowded room? For two decades, Jack Schafer worked as an FBI behavioral analyst with one primary mission: getting complete strangers to trust him with their lives. His specialty wasn't interrogation or intimidation-it was friendship. The techniques he developed weren't just effective for national security; they revealed something profound about how all human relationships actually work. Think about your closest friend. How did that relationship begin? Chances are, it wasn't love at first sight. More likely, you kept running into each other, started chatting, found common ground, and gradually grew closer. That's not coincidence-it's a formula. Relationships aren't mysterious. They follow a surprisingly simple equation: Friendship = Proximity + Frequency + Duration + Intensity. Each element builds on the others, creating the foundation for genuine connection.
The Mathematics of Human Connection and the Silent Language Before Words
Making Others the Star of Their Own Story
The Hidden Laws Governing Attraction
The Art of Conversation That Creates Connection
From Connection to Commitment: The CARE Framework for Lasting Bonds
The Choice to Connect: Your Next Move
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"Instead of endless scrolling, I just hit play on BeFreed. It saves me so much time."
"I never knew where to start with nonfiction—BeFreed’s book lists turned into podcasts gave me a clear path."
"Perfect balance between learning and entertainment. Finished ‘Thinking, Fast and Slow’ on my commute this week."
"Crazy how much I learned while walking the dog. BeFreed = small habits → big gains."
"Reading used to feel like a chore. Now it’s just part of my lifestyle."
"Feels effortless compared to reading. I’ve finished 6 books this month already."
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"Crazy how much I learned while walking the dog. BeFreed = small habits → big gains."
"Reading used to feel like a chore. Now it’s just part of my lifestyle."
"Feels effortless compared to reading. I’ve finished 6 books this month already."
"BeFreed turned my guilty doomscrolling into something that feels productive and inspiring."
"BeFreed turned my commute into learning time. 20-min podcasts are perfect for finishing books I never had time for."
"BeFreed replaced my podcast queue. Imagine Spotify for books — that’s it. 🙌"
"It is great for me to learn something from the book without reading it."
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"Instead of endless scrolling, I just hit play on BeFreed. It saves me so much time."
"I never knew where to start with nonfiction—BeFreed’s book lists turned into podcasts gave me a clear path."
"Perfect balance between learning and entertainment. Finished ‘Thinking, Fast and Slow’ on my commute this week."
"Crazy how much I learned while walking the dog. BeFreed = small habits → big gains."
"Reading used to feel like a chore. Now it’s just part of my lifestyle."
"Feels effortless compared to reading. I’ve finished 6 books this month already."
"BeFreed turned my guilty doomscrolling into something that feels productive and inspiring."
"BeFreed turned my commute into learning time. 20-min podcasts are perfect for finishing books I never had time for."
"BeFreed replaced my podcast queue. Imagine Spotify for books — that’s it. 🙌"
"It is great for me to learn something from the book without reading it."
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"Makes me feel smarter every time before going to work"
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