The All-or-Nothing Marriage by Eli J. Finkel Summary
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In "The All-or-Nothing Marriage," Eli Finkel reveals why modern marriages demand more yet offer greater rewards. Endorsed by mindset expert Carol Dweck, this bestseller traces marriage's evolution from survival pact to self-discovery journey. Can today's relationships really deliver both personal growth and lasting connection?
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The Marriage Revolution: How Our Expectations Changed Everything
Marriage has undergone a remarkable transformation. Once primarily about survival and economic partnership, today's marriages aim for something far more ambitious: self-actualization. We expect our spouses to be passionate lovers, best friends, co-parents, and catalysts for personal growth. This evolution explains the paradox at the heart of modern marriage-the average marriage is less stable than in previous generations, yet the best marriages today are more fulfilling than ever before in human history. Like the temperamental Pinot Noir grape that requires perfect conditions but produces transcendent wine, modern marriage demands constant attention and nurturing. Without proper care, it withers quickly. But with sufficient investment, it creates "the most haunting and brilliant and thrilling" connection possible between two people. This "all-or-nothing" pattern explains why marriage simultaneously appears to be both thriving and collapsing in contemporary America.
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