Real Love by Sharon Salzberg Summary
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In "Real Love," meditation master Sharon Salzberg redefines love beyond romance, offering mindful techniques to heal self-doubt and cultivate authentic connections. Her transformative approach has revolutionized how we understand compassion, making this New York Times bestseller essential for anyone seeking deeper human connection.
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When Love Becomes a Verb Instead of a Feeling
What if everything you believed about love was backwards? Not wrong, exactly, but inverted-like reading a map upside down and wondering why you keep getting lost. We chase love as if it's something to capture, a treasure at the end of a difficult quest. We wait to feel worthy before we dare to love ourselves. We believe we need to be fixed, perfected, or fundamentally transformed before we deserve connection. But what if love isn't a destination or a feeling at all? What if it's a practice, a choice we make moment by moment-starting not with finding the right person, but with befriending ourselves exactly as we are right now? Here's the truth that cuts through every self-help cliche: you don't need to earn your worthiness. You already have it, simply by existing. Yet most of us carry an internal broadcast system running 24/7, narrating our inadequacies. Elliott absorbed his father's contempt for emotions until his marriage nearly collapsed. Others internalize messages about being the "wrong" gender, ethnicity, or orientation. James Baldwin described years of "vomiting up all the filth I'd been taught about myself" before he could walk the earth feeling he had a right to be here. Our brains aren't helping. Evolution gifted us a "negativity bias"-we remember threats more vividly than pleasures, a survival mechanism now working against us. Add modern culture's obsession with competition and status, and we're trapped in endless comparisons. Scroll through social media for five minutes and watch contentment transform into jealousy.
The Stories That Cage Us and the Critic That Guards Them
Feeling Everything Without Breaking and Releasing Perfection
Coming Home to Your Body and Transforming Shame
Love as Recognition and the Science of Connection
The Upward Spiral of Community and Compassion
Saying Yes to This Precious Life
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"Reading used to feel like a chore. Now it’s just part of my lifestyle."
"Feels effortless compared to reading. I’ve finished 6 books this month already."
"BeFreed turned my guilty doomscrolling into something that feels productive and inspiring."
"BeFreed turned my commute into learning time. 20-min podcasts are perfect for finishing books I never had time for."
"BeFreed replaced my podcast queue. Imagine Spotify for books — that’s it. 🙌"
"It is great for me to learn something from the book without reading it."
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"Instead of endless scrolling, I just hit play on BeFreed. It saves me so much time."
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"Reading used to feel like a chore. Now it’s just part of my lifestyle."
"Feels effortless compared to reading. I’ve finished 6 books this month already."
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